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How Can I Get What I Want In Life?
It’s simple. Learn and accept the rules of the game of life, and play by those rules to get what you want.
It’s interesting. When you actually start to question why you want anything in life, you very quickly come to the conclusion that the reason you want anything more than where you are is because you think you will feel better if you had it. The other thing you quickly realise is that you can’t ever be truly happy unless you make movements towards your desires, towards your dreams which are out there ahead of you in your future calling you. I’ll explain more about the mechanisms of this later.
The crux of this whole game called life is that you can’t ever go back and be happy. When you’ve become aware that you want more than you have, you will never feel happy unless you can move towards that new and improved person that you have identified yourself as wanting to be. Life is about expanding, becoming more, and you will be constantly becoming. Whether or not you effectively keep up with your own becoming, is really up to you. Some people allow themselves to go to who they’ve become (richer, more beautiful, more successful, more creative, more loving), and they live joyful lives as a result. Others tend to drag their feet and have lives which are less fun as they feel the tension between their ‘potential lives’ and their current ‘reality’. If you really want things strongly, and yet fail miserably to keep up with your own expansion, the tension becomes unbearable and you tend to block out reality with some substance or bevahiour which diverts focus, or else you exit the game early.
Some decide that they are incapable of keeping up with their own personal desires, and so they manage the distance between their present life and their desires by trying to limit their desires, by finding and participating in an organisation which agrees with them. But this is never really satisfying, and in any case life is designed to cause new desire in you, so you’re going against a powerful force (and being a hermit isn’t that much fun).
If you try to make intellectual sense of this world, within a very short period of time, your mind will be overcome by confusion; a chattering thinking mind which leads not to clarity but instead to complete and utter chaos. This is principally because people don’t understand how they get what they get in life, and in their feeling of powerlessness they seek to find some action to carry out. They strive to control the circumstances around them, creating rules and laws and trying to restrict the behaviour of others. If people were self-empowered, they wouldn’t feel the need to legislate against anyone else, as they would understand how everything came to them. You can’t think your way out of it, you have to feel your way…….
Furthermore, and paradoxically, the only way you can ever come into your own power is by letting go of control of the outside world, its people places and things, and look inside yourself instead to seek control of the way you feel. Many great teachers throughout the ages have spoken of unconditional love, and this is what they meant. Unconditional love says:
"I will love (feel good) regardless of what the conditions might be. I will be who I really am and love you, even if you are feeling bad and blaming me or my behaviour for the way you feel."
Conditional love says;
"I will love (feel good) when you behave in a way that pleases me, but if you don’t please me, I will disapprove of you and feel bad. It is your responsibility to behave in a way that makes me feel good."
So how can you live unconditional love? By focussing in a way that makes you feel good; seeing things in a kind loving gentle light, giving people the benefit of the doubt, by knowing that nobody’s done anything wrong and that all really is well. By demonstrating the loving person that you really are to the world, and feeling resonance with the true nature of your being. Don’t love for their benefit, do it for yourself.
Unfortunately the majority are trained away from their own true power as the are surrounded by people who are living a very conditional love, and therefore need those around them to modify their behaviour in order for them to feel good. The only thing of any importance to you is the way that you feel. The only thing of any importance to you, is the way that you feel. It determines everything that comes to you. Everything else really is irrelevant, laws rules, action. So to get to this point where you can control the way you feel, and therefore how the world responds to you, you need to understand where your emotions come from and why they are so important to you.
OK, so what are the rules of the game of life?
Let’s start at the beginning. How does the world relate to you? How do you get what you get in life? How is it that some people are living lives of great abundance and joy, while others seem to struggle to keep their heads above water financially, and have dissatisfying relationships with almost everyone they interact with, even total strangers? Do I need to buy that new radar detector for my car to avoid getting speeding tickets? It life based on luck? Is it a lack of fairness in the system? Should we take things away from people who have ‘too much’ and give it to people who need it? How can we make sense of such a complicated system without going crazy?
So many questions, but where to start? We need to stop trying to ‘think’ our way and start to ‘feel’ our way along the path. Emotions are a powerful guidance that few understand, but appreciation for them will lead to personal satisfaction and a joyful life experience. But before we discuss emotions, we need to talk about The Law. That’s right folks, it’s The Law of Attraction, the only law worth talking about.
The world, while it may appear to you to be a solid, tangible, ‘physical’ place is actually a lot more fluid than you might think. We perceive the world as we do, but it is just a perception or an interpretation of energy, and not dissimilar to a dream in that respect. Everybody interprets the world differently, though they think they see the same, they don’t. What we generally don’t see is the orchestration that is happening behind the scenes, the organisation of the world. Life is not random; everything that happens is orchestrated perfectly. Who choreographs this magnificent ballet? Law of Attraction, of course.
The phrase ‘The Law of Attraction’ usually rouses comments about ‘The Secret’, the 2006 book and film by Rhonda Byrne, but it is quite a lot more significant than a positive thinking success guide. Law of Attraction orchestrates everything, everywhere. Not just here on planet earth, but everywhere in physical and non physical realities, of which there are vast numbers. So if you’re going to have a joyful life, you probably need to know about it so you can play life by life’s rules (you knew about law of attraction when you were a baby). Law of Attraction matches up like and like things. You may have heard the expression “Birds of a feather flock together”. What this means to you and me is that we attract to us things which match who we are. Match who we are? In what way?
Every time you think, you are tuning in to a thought frequency, a bit like a radio station, and Law of Attraction will match you up with things that match that radio station or frequency. This is where the phrase ‘you get what you think about’ comes from. Give your attention to anything for any length of time, and tune into that radio frequency, and start to see the equivalent frequencies come to you in your life. It’s not that they weren’t there before, just that you couldn’t see them, because they were on a different frequency, on a different vibe. High flying positive joyful thoughts are of a high vibrational frequency, and low, negative, depressing, angry, vengeful thoughts are of a much lower vibrational frequency.
But how does Law of Attraction work in the real world? If I apply myself like a successful person, will I become successful?
Not necessarily. Law of Attraction will bring to you things which match the way you feel. If you feel successful then Law of Attraction will bring you circumstances, people, situations and the rest to match that successful feeling. If you only act as though you are successful but you still feel poor or unworthy of success, then you will not attract success that you want, as the Law of Attraction responds only to how you feel, which in this case is unworthy.
But isn’t that the wrong way round? Don’t people achieve success and then feel successful?
That may be the way almost everyone is approaching it, but it’s certainly the hard way of going about it. If you seek out those who are successful, those who’ve been through the process of achieving anything substantial to them, they will acknowledge that it wasn’t until they stopped trying to achieve and let themselves be what they had become, that things started to work out for them. Of course they like to tell everyone how hard they worked, but it wasn’t until they stopped working that they really got a handle on their success. It takes a while to start to feel like you’re rich or successful, or to appreciate that there is nothing to fear about life, but once you get there (usually in your forties) you’re on the road to easy success. Many millionaires make and lose their millions many times before they learn to relax and stop worrying about losing their fortunes. Once they feel better and more sure, they hold on to their money because they aren’t constantly thinking about losing it.
Most of us human beings have things the wrong way round. The old phrase “To Be, to Do, to Have” has been reversed by the majority, and with dissatisfying results. Most people think more of: “To Have, to Do, to Be; i.e. they think that by Having stuff, they will be able to Do things which will enhance their state of Being (make them feel better). The only problem is that they are going against the Law of Attraction, which is responding to your state of Being. So when you go out and buy more stuff to try and fill that empty feeling inside, you are not satisfied because Law of Attraction says that if you feel empty, you will attract to you things that match that, so you still feel empty, so you buy more stuff, and more stuff. Each time you think it will do the job, but as you are attracting from a place of lack you can only attract more lack. That’s not to say that buying stuff is inappropriate in itself, only that we shouldn’t use things outside of ourselves (food, sex, money, drugs, work or ’stuff’) to attempt to change the way we feel, because ultimately it can’t do any lasting good. We need to find another way to feel better before any of the conditions change. And strangely, when we do that, the conditions morph into much more satisfying conditions.
If people approached this from the right direction: To Be, to Do, to Have, i.e. they set their feeling tone; how they wanted to Be, and were then inspired to Do actions which then meant they could Have life experience which matched how they felt, they would be working with The Law, and would find the journey satisfying and joyful along the way. There is no satisfaction in going against the Law of Attraction because if you feel bad and you act from a bad feeling place, then you can only ever attract to you circumstances and people which match that bad feeling.
Never take action when feeling bad and ever expect the results to feel good. The end can never justify the means, and a miserable journey means the destination will feel the same. People inherently know this, and tend to delay and call themselves procrastinators. While procrastination is very often seen as a bad thing, it is actually a very sensible and wise choice to not move forward in an action which will yield very little in the way of satisfying results. First find a way of feeling better, line up the energy, and then take the inspired action which will feel good to you, as will the end result. You see how feeling good in this present moment is crucial, as it determines everything else that comes to you, it is your point of attraction now that Law of Attraction is responding to.
We see examples of the Law of Attraction manifest in relationships. If a person has a particular feeling or vibration about how he is treated by his partner, and as he continues to feel that way, he will attract the same type of partner who matches that feeling, who ‘makes him feel’ that same way again and again and again. It is not until he finds a way to change the way he feels about his relationship, to improve his relationship vibration, if you will, that he can broadcast a new signal to the world and get matched up something more pleasing to him.
You’re talking a lot about emotions, how do they fit in?
Emotions are the most important part, and the ’secret’ which was left out of ‘The Secret’. Most do not appreciate what emotions really mean or why we have them, and this leads to no end of confusion as people try to control outside conditions to get what they want. Typically, emotions are labelled and used as justification for some kind of behaviour against another. It’s as though emotions are apart from us and we cannot control them being enslaved by them instead.
Our emotions are a supreme form of inner guidance, to be trusted above all laws religious and secular, and above the well meaning opinions of friends and family. Here’s how it works: Consider yourself as more than just ‘Jack or Jill’ the ‘ego’ that you identify as you. Yes, you are consciousness, but there is a greater part of you, a soul or source part of you, that exists concurrently in non-physical reality. This non-physical eternal part of you, the source of your life energy, your vitality, is sometimes referred to as God. As the physical you lives life and prefers things, chooses and decides how things might be better for the ‘ego’ you, that greater source energy part of you, your inner being, becomes all of those things immediately. Here in the physical realm things take a bit more time to manifest, but you are playing catch up with that other part of you. You will get there, but will you have to die your physical death to catch up?
Every dream, every wish, every desire great or small is gathered by your inner being and held and focussed upon so Law of Attraction can respond to it. Now, if you knew how old you really are, how old the source energy part of you really is, you would see how powerfully your source is attracting to it. But Law of Attraction is responding to both parts of you. The physical you as well as the non-physical you. If you manage to keep up to speed with your own becoming by thinking thoughts that are in line with your expansion, you feel good as your thoughts align with those of your inner being. If you don’t keep up you feel the distance between the ‘two of you’. Blame whatever you want, but ultimately it is your job to focus in a way that keeps you feeling good.
Now, as the ‘source’ or ‘God’ part of you understands the power of Law of Attraction, and that you will attract to yourself the essence of how you feel, it offers you guidance in the form of emotions to get you thinking in the direction of what you have said you want, or of who you really are (pure love). It stands there as a benchmark, calling you towards what you have identified you want. As your thoughts align with those of your source, you get positive feedback in the form of good feelings. If you are focussed in a way that you are attracting to yourself the opposite of what you have said you want, you get negative feedback in the form of negative feelings. Essentially your emotions are guidance which tell you whether you are thinking and therefore attracting life in line with everything that you have really become, or not.
The majority label negative emotions (anger, fear, jealousy) which they then use to justify some sort of behaviour against another who has ‘made them feel’ that way. What they don’t appreciate is that they attracted that situation to them, and that it matches the way they were thinking and feeling. They alone are responsible for where they are standing. This can be a bitter pill to swallow at first, but when you do stomach it and move on, you are on your way to becoming a self empowered, joyful individual in charge of your own life, rather than a victim battered around by the whims of others who think they know better than you. They don’t.
You cannot be a victim of anything, unless you choose to think victim thoughts and therefore feel like a victim, in which case the Law of Attraction will match you up with circumstances which match that feeling. So you might get swindled, or get a parking ticket, or you might be berated by your boss. One thing is certain, if anything good or bad happens to you, you can be sure that you were feeling that way before that manifestation came along to show you how you were feeling. For example let’s say you have broken your leg. How do you feel about it? You might say ‘I feel hindered, I feel powerless, I feel like a prisoner in my own house’. OK, now look back into your immediate past, before you broke you leg, and ask yourself “How did I feel before the manifestation happened?” the answer is always that you were feeling this way before, but you chose to ignore it. Sometimes we get so accustomed to feeling a particular way that it takes a manifestation to come along to show us how we were feeling. The same can be applied to any situation. What you are thinking and how you are feeling and what manifests in your life always matches. There are no exceptions to the Law of Attraction.
In a perfectly fair and just universe, of course the same applies to good manifestations. If you feel excited, happy and joyful, then Law of Attraction will match you up with people and circumstances, situations and events which match that good feeling. “Ah”, you say, “that’s easy then, isn’t it? If I just think and do whatever I can to feel as good as I can feel, then I will attract to me good feeling things?” Absolutely. It really is that simple. Feel good. But it’s typically way too simple for us egoistic ‘thinkers’; human beings are conditioned to work hard in order to receive or justify the good that comes to them. “Ask and it is given is” not something that they are likely to swallow easily. And of course, if you understand what I have said above, if you ‘feel’ that you’re not going to get things unless you work hard, then you will need to work hard in order to get the things you want. That’s right, your beliefs or practiced thoughts will determine what you get in life. You can change your thinking and hence your beliefs, but it is serious mental work, and few have the appetite for it. This is the reason many think Law of Attraction doesn’t work, when in reality they are just lazy thinkers.
OK, that’s fairly clear, but give me something I can really apply to my life. How do I get the dream girl or the dream house, or that lottery win?
Well, one thing is sure, if it feels too big, too great, too wonderful, if the thought has with it a feeling of yearning, then it’s not coming any time soon. You can never just jump to that far off dream place and expect to stay there, because if you look at how it feels, it feels unrealistic to you; you want it, but you don’t believe it; you would love to go out with her, but she’d never be interested in dating a guy like you. Things only come to you when you are ready for them, and they always feel like the next logical step. They are a match to the way you feel on that subject. So the easiest thing to do in life (and some of you might not like to hear this, especially if you’re dramatic person) is to take incremental steps, baby steps towards what you want. Want a beautiful lover in your life? You need to feel like you have a beautiful lover in your life before you can have one. If you try to make a big jump, you might leap far, but the chances of you maintaining that position are slim. It usually feels uncomfortable and it rarely lasts. Small, incremental steps usually work better. Appreciate where you are and move incrementally to better and better things. Some people never get going because they want to get to the end game now, but you can’t do that. Move incrementally and accept that whatever is manifesting in your life now is a match to your vibration, tune in to the best parts of it, and gradually watch those things improve.
So you’re saying that by the time the manifestation comes, it won’t feel special, it will just feel like the next logical step?
That’s right, I’m sorry to say that by the time it comes you won’t be jumping about with excitement, because you will be a match to it and it will feel like the next logical step. At this stage it is worth mentioning the power of imagination or visualisation. If you only had the ability to observe current reality, then you would never be able to move towards anything new and improved in life, as life would respond to your feeling, which would be pretty much where you are now. Observe what is, get more of what is, observe what is, get more of what is etc. But luckily for you, you do have the power of imagination so you can ‘familiarise’ yourself with the dreams you have identified that you want, spending enough time thinking about them that they feel so familiar that they do eventually feel like the next logical step. When that happens, then they can manifest in your life. This is actually why you are here on planet earth; to mold creative energy towards the object of your desire. If you spend more time observing and berating your now, you will of course remain firmly rooted there with minimal change. So dreaming is essential as it helps us to line up with that greater source part of us who is already dating that supermodel, driving that Ferrari 458 Italia and living in that beautiful Tuscan farmhouse villa with a pool and olive grove. Facing reality is overrated. Thinking, dreaming and pondering more is the only way to move towards our own expansion. You knew this when you were young, but your well meaning adults in your life tried to get you facing reality. It’s OK, they didn’t know any better.
So if it’s not about getting the stuff, then what is it about?
If, when the things that we want come to us, they feel like the next logical step and they don’t thrill us, then what does that say about the process of creating? It highlights the intention behind the creative process. People attribute too great an importance to the manifestation itself, when it is really the creative process which gets our juices flowing. The journey towards the creation of that relationship, money, house, job, Business Empire is what we really wanted. The idea was just an excuse to focus attention and flow creative energy toward that end; an excuse to take that journey. It’s nice to have it, but it feels even better to want it and know that it’s coming; it’s a bit like the feeling of Christmas Eve when you were a young child. The feeling the night before was so much more exciting than when you’d opened all your presents. This is because it wasn’t about getting the stuff, it was about wanting and expecting it to come. In that feeling there is infinite possibility, and pure unadulterated desire. When you’ve been creating as long as we all have, the journey is never complete, as the destination never comes. When you realise that the journey is eternal, you start to appreciate it’s not the getting there that’s fun, because you never get there. It’s the ‘going there’ that we live for. Life is about having an excuse to take the journey.
For more examples of how law of attraction works, see the excellent book by Jerry and Esther Hicks, The Law of Attraction. See also other articles in comments for examples of law of attraction (as documented by me)
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